Life has been rather eventful the last month or so and it’s slowed down my momentum somewhat with launching this blog. There have been deaths, redundancies, cancer, job interviews all happening in my circle of friends – I’ll share more as I get my thoughts together.
What has been coming to mind lately though is the importance of making time for people and having the margin that you can do this. I wasn’t so great at this for a while. I was running myself ragged getting totally exhausted and just needing to hide away when I had any down time. God has been speaking to me to cut back on some of that stuff, which is hard because that stuff is perhaps the more visible, social stuff that you get the positive feedback from others on. It gets a little addictive to please people and somehow feel you’re pleasing God too (that’s a whole other blog post in that sentence I think).
But you know, having the space to make tea and sit with a friend who had multiple bereavements in her church this month (nine funerals – can you fathom it?) or a craft afternoon with another friend who’s dad has cancer. Being able to sit and hug a friend who’s petrified of some change looming in her life. Going to Paris on a whim and finding out that you’re meant to have dinner and be totally encouraged by the friend you met there. That’s the important stuff.
I’m writing this as much for myself as anyone else, as a reminder to keep this space in my life, to make myself available, to book the cheap Eurostar ticket and pray that God will use me somehow. As I write this I know that I’m incredibly lucky to have this freedom as a single woman to live my life this way, so I’m not going to squander it.
Margin. Selah time. Time to show love in a real way. These are the important things.