After reading on Facebook recently that none of the invited guests turned up to my cousin’s four year old daughter’s birthday party the weekend before Christmas, I decided that for 2015 I really want to make keeping my word a priority. We were all disgusted that that poor little four year old had no one turn up on the day she was meant to be a princess and be pampered. But the reality is, I’ve not made it to many birthdays in the last few years myself and I’ve assumed that others will be there so it’s ok. It probably wasn’t ok.
Now, I can use my health and energy levels as an excuse (and they often have been). But this just doesn’t feel good enough to me.
I live in a crazy, fun city, go to a crazy, fun church and there can be all sorts of crazy, fun invites coming my way. It’s too tempting to say yes to too much. Or have FOMO. What is that anyway?
Somehow I need to get better at prioritising what is important, who is important and planning my energy levels to get to those people. I’ve also decided that I really hate the days in bed to recover that I was having earlier in the year when I was doing too much, it’s actually rather depressing most of the time and I’m much happier when I’m up early exercising and getting things done rather than being unable to move because I over-did my life.
My focus is going to be on scheduling better, looking at my calendar more clearly and genuinely thinking about whether I can make it to things. Along with this I probably need to get more of my friends to understand the nature of the disability I have and how I can’t always predict how I’ll cope. I even bought a fancy new planner that will hopefully help me with this, along with my trusty smart phone. I think I also want to just get a bit more deliberate with my time, being single I have time to myself that others with more responsibilities don’t have which I know is amazing luxury. But I’d like to get a bit better at using that time more purposely. This probably means being more careful with how I use the internet. Gasp. I’m not sure I can do it. 🙂